At its very core of genderbuzz.com is my desire to help individuals and organisations put self-confidence and empowering behaviours at the heart of everything they do and say, and to watch as their workplaces and lives transform as a result.
So what do I mean by ‘self-confidence’?
We are bombarded by the idea that we need to be self-confident to succeed in life – but what does that actually mean and how do we get it? I define self-confidence as feeling truly happy and proud of the essence of who you are and what you have to offer the world. It means being able to fully express your talent and your voice in a powerful way without feeling afraid of judgment either by yourself or others.
I want to be self-confident but I don’t want to come across as ‘arrogant’?
It is a common mistake to depict self-confidence as arrogance but there is a huge difference between the two behaviours and mindsets. I define arrogance as feeling in some way superior to others and demonstrating that either through actions or words. Self-confidence however does not rely on how you view yourself in respect to others but exists as an unshakeable relationship you have with YOURSELF. In short, arrogance is externally facing and self-confidence is internally facing.
So why is it important?
I don’t know about you, but when I spend time in the company of self-confident people, it always feels effortless and relaxing – conversation flows easily and there is a positive energy in every interaction. In my opinion, that is the kind of environment, which allows us to do our best work and be our most productive.
It is also particularly important for women to display authentic self-confidence when working in traditionally male-dominated industries given that we are often encouraged by social convention to keep our voices small so as not to offend. But I say – speak with your own confident voice, other confident people appreciate it because they know where they stand with you and you will be fun, productive and enjoyable to work with!